Couple Wedding Shower Idea

A bridal shower is a gift-giving party held for a bride-to-be in anticipation to her wedding. The custom today is most common in the United States, Canada, and by American influence, in Australia. Showers are usually coordinated by the bridesmaids, who invite guests to offer gifts for the upcoming home of the bride and groom as a married couple (or more accurately of the bride, since the groom is very seldom invited to the shower). The history of the custom is rooted not necessarily for the provision of goods for the upcoming matrimonial home, but to provided goods and financial assistance to ensure the wedding may take place.

History

The custom of the bridal shower is said to have grown out of earlier dowry practices, when a poor woman's family might not have the money to provide a dowry for her, or when a father refused to give his daughter her dowry because he did not approve of the marriage. In such situations, friends of the woman would gather together and bring gifts that would compensate for the dowry and allow her to marry the man of her choice.

The earliest stories about these events have been known to originate in Brussels, Belgium around 1860. A frequently quoted legend traces the origin of this practice to the 16th or 17th Century Netherlands. However, there are also parallels with many dowry practices and the U.S. colonial or hope chest ( trousseau ) custom.

There is no such custom in the U.K., where wedding presents are normally selected from a list provided by the couple, and delivered either at the wedding or by the shop, and sometimes displayed at the wedding. A related custom practiced in medieval England was the Bride Ale; in Langland's Piers Plowman (§ B.II.45) there is a reference to a bruydale . This was a feast held before the wedding day, at which the bride made beer and sold it to the guests at a high price.

In the United States bridal showers started in urban areas in the 1890s, mainly among the upper middle classes. By the 1930s bridal showers had spread to rural America.

The earliest use of this sense of the word in print may be in the Grand Rapids Michigan Evening Press 22 June 4, 1904: "The ‘shower parties’ that through mistaken hospitality the wedded couple are forced to attend..." And may derive from the custom in Victorian times for the presents to be put inside a parasol, which when opened would "shower" the bride-to-be with gifts.

Bridal shower etiquette

Many different customs have developed in different regions and social groups. But the basic format has been relatively unchanged for generations, and emphasizes traditional gender roles. Sociologists like Beth Montemurro note that the ritual of the bridal shower "socializes women into the hyper-feminized traditional wife role," with its emphasis on the future role of the bride-to-be as family cook, homemaker, and sexual partner. But this role is more of an homage to the mothers and grandmothers than a reflection of how the bride-to-be will actually behave in the marriage.

Although the format has remained relatively consistent, there have been some significant changes. An etiquette guide from the 1920s suggested showers should be "purely spontaneous and informal," with guests arriving unannounced at the bride-to-be's home, while a planning guide from the 1950s suggests more complex themes and games.

Traditionally, hosting the bridal shower falls on the maid of honor. Because gifts are required of those who attend the shower, some communities consider it rude for a relative of the bride to host it, but relative-hosted showers are a common and accepted occurrence in other communities. The shower normally takes place four to six weeks before the wedding.

Due to the prior history of showers being "purely spontaneous and informal", showers have not developed the same formal etiquette that has developed with respect to weddings. It is not customary for guests to receive formal invitations in the same manner as they would for a wedding.

The number of guests and their relationship to the bride varies widely. In Canada among some immigrant communities parties in community halls with upwards of 300 guests were normal, while other cultures emphasized intimate parties with only close friends and relatives.

References

1. ^ Montemurro, Beth. "Origins of Bridal Showers and Bachelorette Parties" (in English). Something Old, Something Bold . Rutgers University Press. pp. 21-22. ISBN 0-8135-3811-4.  
2. ^ Otnes, Cele C.; Pleck, Elizabeth H.. "The Engagement Complex" (in English). Cinderella Dreams: The Allure of the Lavish Wedding . University of California Press. pp. 72 - 73. ISBN 0-520-24008-1.  
3. ^ Montemurro, Beth. "Origins of Bridal Showers and Bachelorette Parties" (in English). Something Old, Something Bold . Rutgers University Press. pp. 26. ISBN 0-8135-3811-4.  
4. ^ Montemurro, Beth (in English). Something Old, Something Bold . Rutgers University Press. pp. 20, 26. ISBN 0-8135-3811-4.  
5. ^ Otnes, Cele C.; Pleck, Elizabeth H.. "The Engagement Complex" (in English). Cinderella Dreams: The Allure of the Lavish Wedding . University of California Press. ISBN 0-520-24008-1.   p. 74

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